I hope that at this point in time, never mind what’s going on in the world, you are starting to take back your own life.
Once of the most important habits we have as human beings is choice! You can either choose to stay, what I call grounded, or you can take precautions and get on with your life.
When I started writing this there wasn’t a policeman who was charged with murdering an African American man while his cohorts looked on, which led to what I call, a world on fire. Instead of everything being about a pandemic, peaceful protests started to honor this man only to be over taken by thugs looting and burning everything in sight! Businesses that were getting ready to open after months of being in lockdown mode lost their stock and many were burned to the ground.
It broke my heart to hear a fire fighter and his wife say they had put all their savings, $100,000 into buying a store and it was ready to open when these louts burned it down and unfortunately it wasn’t insured. There were so many stories like this in cities all over the USA.
This week I felt so sad and more afraid than I can ever remember. Afraid for this country I emigrated to in 1979, where I became a citizen, where I have now spent more of my life than I did in my home country, the UK.
The first few days I was glued to the TV news and to Face Book but, by Wednesday I was starting to get depressed so I decided again that I had a choice, I couldn’t change what happened but I could change the way I was feeling and what I was doing. I stopped watching the news constantly and I stopped going to Facebook. I still had a business to get back on its feet.
I haven’t been afraid of Covid since day one yet in looking at social media all I seemed to see at that time was that everyone over 60 was terrified of going out. Even though I’m 79, I did not want to be frozen in fear.
By this time I had been at home for 2 weeks and had enough of hiding behind closed doors. It didn’t matter what I decided, I was never going to be 100% sure that I wouldn’t get the Covid19 virus. After all, even if I had all my groceries delivered I didn’t know whether the person delivering or putting my order together had the symptoms.
I decided not to buy into other people’s fear. I started going to the market, the bank, CVS and a few other places. I did follow the protocol and wore a mask and did social distancing, which I still do. I went to see my Grandchildren, no hugging but at least I got to see them.
I’ve been teaching people to overcome fear, to decrease stress and anxiety and a variety of other things for 30 years so, I did what I teach.
Fear is just a feeling, false evidence appearing real. However unless you are in absolute physical danger, it really is just a feeling manifested by your mind. Change the way you are thinking and you will find that it makes a huge difference in all areas of your life. I always do my best to think positively so I decided I needed to do this in this instance too.
With Covid I used words like; I’m safe, I’m healthy and I continually feel fantastic. This week with all the anger, rioting and looting, I added words like, love, patience and communication. If you do this in any given situation it will allow you to stay free of fear. Anytime a negative thought comes into your head, replace it with something positive. If you stay consciously aware and keep doing this, after a while you will find you’ve actually changed your mindset and things will move forward much more positively.
‘Til Next Time
Have a safe and positive week