Like most people, I’ve had ups and downs, failures and successes and from each one I’ve learned valuable lessons, created a more balanced life, have firmer boundaries and have a lot of empathy for situations people get into.
I’ve also found that my intuition about people has become waaay sharper! It’s quite easy for me to perceive who has imposter syndrome, who is coming from a place where outwardly they show confidence yet they really don’t feel they are good enough and those people who always have a ‘need’ to be seen.
I’ve helped many hundreds of people change these habits and behaviors hence, they ended up having healthier relationships, made more money and lived all around happier lives.
It’s taken lots of work and many years to reach this point and I continue to learn more every day. As challenging as it’s been at times, I’m also very grateful for every experience, both good and bad and it’s allowed me to transform myself in many different ways.
One of the ways I overcame the things that were holding me back was to make a list of all I had actually done in my life, whether I had taken a risk and failed and picked myself up and kept moving forward and especially the things I felt I had been successful at. Remember, you don’t really fail when something doesn’t work out as long as you don’t allow it to hold you back.
One of the other things I used to do, was when people paid me a compliment in any way, “not a big deal” or “I’ve had this for years,” or “you didn’t have to do that,” one day a friend a good friend said,” it would be much nicer if you just said thank you.” That was the day I stopped negating myself.
Life experience has given me the wisdom to know that however hurtful people may have been, and still sometimes are, it’s unhealthy to hang onto those kind of situations. And in my very early years, thinking about the future was pointless since my belief was that I wasn’t going to have a great time or be happy ever. How wrong I was back then!
I spent time working on being OK with just letting go, whether it’s people, situations or circumstances. It doesn’t have to mean that you forget but it does mean, if you want to stay emotionally healthy that you learn how to let go, recognize that usually it’s about them not about you and then move forward.
I also used a journal where I would jot down feelings and things I wanted to become consciously aware of. When you hand write something it goes from your hand to your brain, it’s not the same if you type it. Actually, there are many things, including hypnosis that you can do to make changes faster.
If any of these things touch you. Please remember you too can change the way you think, as well as habits and behaviors if you want too.
Show kindness and gratitude for the small things people do that make things easier for you, so that you acknowledge their thoughtfulness.
‘Til Next Time
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I’m success coach, clinical hypnotherapist, author and entrepreneur Hazel Palache and if you have any questions I would love to connect with you. Over my 30 years as a Mindset Expert I’ve helped many hundreds of people to change their lives and businesses so they are living a life they love with less stress and more fun.
Everything I write about I’ve been through and come out the other side myself so, although I have lots of training, I speak from vast personal experience.
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